I could describe the passion in my relationship as a Ten year stock chart that starts out at it’s peak and over it’s coarse it’s at it’s low. Ten Year low, but don’t get me wrong it might be a day or two out the
month that the stock soars but again it’s back to the steady decline.

Background

The first two years, we could not keep our hands off each other. I would describe our relations with one word “Great”. Now you have to understand I met my wife at 19
years old, she was 18. Both of us were living with our parents. This means
little to no responsibility. All we had was school, part time job and maybe one
or two store credit cards.

Next few years we move to Florida, away from our parents. We found jobs and got our first apartment together. The Passion is still there; actually we now have our own space where sex can happen with out any worry. It might not be a surprise but
the sex declined a little. You
know when you want something and you finally get it, now you don’t use it as
you thought you would, okay common.
I notice we fight and argue a little more. The good thing is, we have to
deal with each other. We have nowhere to go away from each other. Family and
friends and ex partners are living in our old state (New York). Being together
in our own home forced us to bump into each other and talk. Okay now we have a little more
responsibility, rent, and more bills.

Few more years later, we decided to get our own home. At this point in Florida homes are cheap and it seems like they are giving it away. With a home there’s more responsibility,
Mortgage, property taxes, home maintenance, home insurance, along with bills
and more credit cards. We also
added additional car, means additional bills. More fights and arguments are
happening. Passion is declining, more stress is
added, and there are more worries.

And then more years goes by We decided to upgrade, upgrade to a bigger home. This means multiply everything I said before by two.
Now add the house crash and our country’s recession. You are now looking
at a boiling point. Passion is dropping fast. Also throw school in the mix;
both of us are finishing up our bachelor’s degree. More stress more worries. At this point, we are great partners, and we support each
other. We go out to eat a lot, and we travel enough. We are able to handle the situation that we are in.

Now, A child is born. Wonderful blessing, it completely changed our lives. I don’t think I have to go in detail on the transformation. With this blessing
comes, not knowing how? Not knowing how to handle everything. I believe this
may have pushed us over any edge we may have been dangling on. Sex is
now minimal if any at long periods of time. Any time available for each other is almost gone. Love and affection is only given to our
son, I remember when I use to get some of that. Stress levels are through the roof, along with added child
expenses. Responsibilities, forget
about it. This is a new area for
us and I don’t’ believe we got a grip how to handle it.